Ensure action plugins accept only valid args (#44779)

* Ensure action plugins accept only valid args

This fixes #25424
This also fixes #44773

* Add missing parameters, use private _VALID_ARGS

test/integration/targets/wait_for_connection/tasks/main.yml

@@ -3,3 +3,15 @@
     connect_timeout: 5
     sleep: 1
     timeout: 10
+
+- name: Use invalid parameter
+  wait_for_connection:
+    foo: bar
+  ignore_errors: yes
+  register: invalid_parameter
+
+- name: Ensure task fails with error
+  assert:
+    that:
+    - invalid_parameter is failed
+    - "invalid_parameter.msg == 'Invalid options for wait_for_connection: foo'"